Stacy, Matt and Mariia at
The Michigan News Agency
Why do we seem so “HAPPY?” The discussion about Emotional Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman, started with the point of self-awareness. As a group we agreed that if we aren’t aware of feelings as they happen, then we probably are not going to change anything.
Being “HAPPY” is important, and it is easy to get sidetracked, or even too “emotionally involved” in a situation that does not require more than empathy. Sometimes, though, being empathic is overwhelming. Any Trekkies may remember the character Deana Troi in “Star Trek: The Next Generation.” She could read feelings and would get ill from not being able to disconnect. Other than extremes like this, empathy, according to Goleman, is the fundamental “people skill.”
Some of the other topics revolved around:
- Groups – personal experiences and how they can be “dumb” even when everyone is “smart,” when talents are not shared well.
- How it is easier to fix other people’s problems versus your own.
- That when you realize you’re in a bad emotional state, STOP, and reframe.
- That the world measures IQ more than EQ, and causes test anxiety, which, ironically, does not portray true IQ, such as with the SATs.
- The idea that EQ training throughout school is great, whether as a separate course or a part of the curriculum, and that the rest of us allow therapists to make a living.
- Flow…has nothing to do with the Progressive Insurance commercial, and everything to do with being in the moment and happy with the current task.
- Quotes – can be inspiring for a minute. It is not the quote, but our own motivation, which drives us.
Bottom line – we all liked the book and, as Mariaa stated, “It was cheaper than therapy.”
Stacy (a.k.a. “The Book Lady”)